The path won’t be made easy. You will meet many obstacles along the way, but this is how it is when you truly fight for your freedom. Often this is an internal battle. It is an internal battle of not allowing the thoughts and opinions of others to direct you. It is the internal battle of not allowing others to direct your life.
They have their own values, their own ideas of what makes them feel good and what they need. People often subconsciously project this onto others, thinking that other people will need the same things that they do, and if they just give them the right direction, then they will be successful on their path. With parents, they desperately want you to succeed and be well taken care of. Therefore, if they have never taken risks along their path, they will want to ensure that you stay safe by doing the same. Comfort is safety. But risks are what make us truly come alive.
Taking the risk of following your heart, is taking the risk of creating your own path. You are not here to be like anyone else, not your parents, not your siblings, not your mentors, not your peers. You, and you alone. You must reclaim your own internal compass. Make decisions based on your own preferences and values. Other people’s needs are not necessarily identical to your own. What do you need to feel good? What do you need to feel balanced? What do you need to feel fulfilled? People will spend their whole lives trying to make these decisions for you. Do not let them. Reclaim your power. You are the master of your own life, and this includes being the master of your time, energy, and the choices and decisions that you make. This is your power, and your power alone. Deep in your heart, you always know what’s best for you. Trust.
Each time you allow others to dictate your life choices, to decide for you, to dictate how you spend your time, how you spend your energy, what you eat, what you pursue, you are giving your power away. You are giving your power away and telling yourself that you cannot do it on your own. You are telling yourself that you cannot trust yourself to make the best decisions for you. You are not trusting your own voice. Reclaim your truth, reclaim your power, and even if you feel like you don’t have all the answers (which, let’s be honest, none of us do), you will figure it out along the way.
Your children are not your children.
They are the sons and daughters of Life’s longing for itself.
They come through you but not from you,
And though they are with you yet they belong not to you.
You may give them your love but not your thoughts,
For they have their own thoughts.
You may house their bodies but not their souls,
For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow,
which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.
You may strive to be like them,
but seek not to make them like you.
For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.
You are the bows from which your children– Khalil Gibran
as living arrows are sent forth.
The archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite,
and He bends you with His might
that His arrows may go swift and far.
Let our bending in the archer’s hand be for gladness;
For even as He loves the arrow that flies,
so He loves also the bow that is stable.